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#DontSweatIt | How to give Feedback
Do you know the right way to give feedback to a person?
How oftenย have youย stopped yourselfย from giving feedback to someone thinking you might hurt theirย feelings?
How oftenย did you experienceย a negative response from the person whom you gave feedback?
Do you struggle to get your actual intentions across to the person you’re giving feedback?
A lot has to be taken into consideration before you actually go and give feedback to somebody.
Here are 3 principles to follow in order to excel at the art of giving feedback. Yes, giving feedback to someone is an art. So, let’s begin.First, you need to do a quick realityย check by asking yourself whether this person is actually looking for feedback or this person is only around to seek attention? There are people who come to you just for attention becauseย they like you and look up toย you as a person. For them, victory is just finding your time.
Most people are very afraid of being vulnerable publicly. Most people are very unlikely to come and ask for feedback. If somebody is really looking for feedback, you can see it in their eyes where their need to improve upon themselves is fairly apparent. In case you suspect this person’s motives, it’s safe to ask them as to why do they want this feedback,ย and observe the clarity with which they come back. If they fumble or seem to be giving socially desirable answers, you may choose not to deliver your feedback, thereby discouraging the development of a bad habit in them.
If this person asking for feedback is genuine then you have a responsibility. You may break it intoย threeย parts:Your feedback is going to be an experience for the person receiving it.
If done well, it can be a life-altering one. It’s going to be a bookmark that is going to be placed in the middle of the leaves of the pages of someone’s life. Your feedback could either break this person or make this person. Hence, we need to be careful.
You must ask yourself, as a feedback provider,
“What about the experience you want this person to go back with the most?”
“Do you want this person to go home feeling completely devastated and that there was nothing good about what he did?”
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“Do you want this person to go back with a much more objective analysisย ofย what was done according toย youย andย what could have been done according toย you?#1 Balance out your feedback with both pros and cons, and start with the pros first.
Don’t say just bad things or just good things. Keep it real. Start your feedback process with luring this person in. Avoid starting off with completely negative stuff or you’re going to remind this person of some of the harshest, most negative, toxic people that this person has ever encountered, and you might end up shutting off this person.
Another scenarioย could be that this person may just go home feeling completelyย disheartened and daunted. They may find themselves worthlessย because there was nothing good about them in your feedback. Most of them seeking feedback are very likelyย to be in an impressionable stage in the development of their careers, in the development of their journeys, in the early stages of their paths. Therefore, a lot of care needs to be exercised in how you talk to them. So, be honest and objective while giving feedback to them.For example:ย “There are four things that I liked about you. These are the six things that might require a little bit of work.”
Have respect in how you talk to them. Heraclitus said,ย “Nothing is permanent but change.”ย So, what you think to be the absolute gospel truth today, might not be true tomorrow. What you think to be a universal truth, might not be applicable to everyone and might not be held as everyone’s opinion.ย So, let’s use moreย mightsย and avoid theย shoulds. Give them granularityย by telling them theย whyย behind every part of your feedback.#2 Throw in disclaimers seeking a benefit of doubt for your opinion.ย
Say things like-
“I could be wrong.”
“This is just my opinion.”
“‘In my humble opinion, …”
“This could just be one episodeย of me thinking this way.”At the end of your feedback, this person should not think that he/she has created a reputation in your mind about something negativeย that you pointed out. Avoid usingย absolutes.ย Forย example, how to give feedback to someone who took a long pause in a 4-minute speech-
Wrong:ย “Why do you always do this?”
Right: “I noticed that there was this one time when youย took a long pause before you said something, it seemed to me that whilst you may have been thinking, it came across to me that you may haveย been underconfident at that moment.”You don’t want that person to go home regretting her/his/their decision of asking feedback from you.
You don’t want this person to go home with very low self-esteem.
You don’t want this person to go home with the fear that this person might have created a negative reputation for herself/himself/themselves.#3 Allow them to walk away with a choice, without feeling obliged to follow your feedback.
If they don’t follow your feedback, they should not have to fear/avoid you. Let there be a tomorrow in the relationship that you have with this person so that they can meet you with a smile and say, “Hey that thing you pointed out that day, I’m happy that you did. I’m still wondering how that can be applicable to my situation, and I will come back to you whenever I figure that out.” Let there be that much positivity in the care between the two of you. A lot of people are very dismissive in the way they give feedback.
Delivering feedbackย is theย art that every human being should know how to possess. Especially, parents, teachers, peers, and anyone who communicates with another person. It’s very important to be humane about this process because the other person is being fairly great and extraordinary in being one of the few people who have the humility and an evolutionaryย instinct to ask for feedback. Such people could have chosen not to involve you in their journey. So, remember to thank them for finding you worthy of being spoken to.
- 21 Oct 2020
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Understand โFranceโ Through Etymology
From where does ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ get its name? Why does this remind me of Frank Underwood, a franchise, abusing, & kissing?
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______ ๐ญ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐?
Weโre talking about ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ – the country that gave us croissants!
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______ ๐ฎ. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐น๐ผ๐ด๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ
The word ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ comes from the Latin ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ, meaning “๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ฑ๐ผ๐บ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ธ๐”.
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______ ๐ฏ. ๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐? ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ?
That’s hard to say. Medieval Latin was a long time ago.
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______ ๐ฐ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ “๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ” ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐น๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ ๐ผ๐ณ:
A. ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ธ ๐จ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐ฑ โ because a “frank” means a “freeman, noble; Frank, Frenchman”. Same root. #HouseOfCards
B. ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐๐ฒ โ because “franchise” means the freedom to exercise a special right or privilege (by grant of a sovereign or government). Same root.
C. ๐๐ฏ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด – because the British tend to use the expression “Pardon my French” after abusing someone.
D. ๐๐ถ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด – because, #FrenchKiss?
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- 18 Aug 2020
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Understand โJanmashtmiโ Through Etymology
Whatโs ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐๐บ๐ถ? Why does this remind me of birth, & eight?
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๐ญ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐?
Weโre talking about ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐๐บ๐ถ – Lord Krishna’s birthday!
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๐ฎ. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐น๐ผ๐ด๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ
The word ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐๐บ๐ถ comes from the Sanskrit parts ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐บ (meaning โbirthโ), & ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐๐บ๐ถ (โ8th dayโ).
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๐ฏ. ๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐? ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ?
That’s hard to say when you’re working with Sanskrit.
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๐ฐ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ “๐๐ฎ๐ป๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐๐บ๐ถ” ๐๐ต๐ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ:
A. ๐ฏ๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐ต โ read above โ
B. ๐ด โ read above โ
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Understand โHypothermiaโ Through Etymology
Whatโs ๐ต๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฎ? Why does this remind me of #tea, #needles, & #clothes? ๏ธ
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______ ๐ญ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐?
Weโre talking about ๐ต๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฎ – a body core temperature below 35.0 ยฐC (95.0 ยฐF) in humans.
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______ ๐ฎ. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐น๐ผ๐ด๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ
The word ๐ต๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฎ comes from the Greek parts ๐ต๐๐ฝ๐ผ (meaning โless thanโ), ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐บ (meaning โless thanโ), & -๐ถ๐ฎ (โstate; conditionโ).
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______ ๐ฏ. ๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐? ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ?
The term ๐ต๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฎ is said to have been first recorded in 1885โ90. Antarctic explorers Ernest Shackleton & his team observed that body temperatures “below 94.2ยฐ, … … spells death at home”, though this probably referred to oral temperatures rather than core temperature & corresponded to mild hypothermia.
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______ ๐ฐ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ “๐ต๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐บ๐ถ๐ฎ” ๐๐ต๐ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ:
A. ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ โ because “thermos”, another word from “therm”
B. ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐น๐ฒ๐ โ because “hypodermic needles”. You’re so predictable :/
C. ๐ฐ๐น๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ โ because “thermal vests”? Seriously, guys!
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- 18 Jun 2020
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Understand โVaccinateโ Through Etymology
Whatโs ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ฒ? Why does this remind me of #cows, & #smallpox?____________________________________ ๐ญ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐?Weโre talking about ๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป – injecting a weakened/killed microbe to stimulate the immune system against that category of microbes, thereby preventing disease.____________________________________ ๐ฎ. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐น๐ผ๐ด๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑThe word ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ฒ comes from the Latin parts ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป (meaning โcowโ) & -๐ฎ๐๐ฒ (โtoโ).____________________________________ ๐ฏ. ๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐? ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฟ๐๐ ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ?The term ๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ฒ is a back-formation from “vaccination”, first used in 1803, 3 years after Edward Jenner coined “๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป” (1800).____________________________________ ๐ฐ. ๐ฆ๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ป? & ๐๐ต๐?๐ญ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ด, English physician ๐๐ผ๐ต๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ realised that infection with ๐ฐ๐ผ๐pox created smallpox-immunity.๐ญ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฐ, English farmer ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ท๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ successfully vaccinated his family against smallpox with ๐ฐ๐ผ๐pox.๐ญ๐ณ๐ต๐ฒ, British doctor ๐๐ฑ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ป๐ฒ๐ฟ demonstrated that infection with the relatively mild ๐ฐ๐ผ๐pox virus conferred immunity against the deadly smallpox virus. Thus began the journey of the word vaccine, & this is why it is connected with ๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐.____________________________________ ๐ฑ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ “๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐๐ฒ” ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐น๐ฑ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ:A. ๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐ โ read โB. ๐๐บ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ฝ๐ผ๐ โ duh!____________________________________ Want to study with Logophilia? For now, BUY LOGOPHILIA #eBOOKS on Amazonย https://amzn.to/2yMtBrT___________________________________ 2020 ยฉ Logophilia Education Pvt. Ltd.___________________________________ #Logophilia #Etymology #Vocabulary #WhyIsItCalledVaccinate #EnglishWords #EtymologyEducation #WordOrigins #Understand #MyFavouriteWords #TheOriginOfVaccinate #WHO #TheEtymologyOfVaccinate #StudyWithLogophilia #Education #HowToUnderstandVaccinate #pandemic2020 #WhatIsVaccinate #VaccinateMeaning- 18 May 2020
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Understand โPhilippicโ Through Etymology
Whatโs a ๐ฝ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฐ? Why does this remind me of #kings, #electronics, and #horses?
________________________________#1. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐น๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐?
Weโre talking about bitter, frictional, denouncing speeches about someone, and why that kind of speech is a ๐ฝ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฐ!
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#2. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐บ๐ผ๐น๐ผ๐ด๐
The word ๐ฝ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฐ comes from the Greek parts ๐ฃ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ (referring to โKing Philip II – King of Macedonโ) and -๐ถ๐ฐ (โrelated toโ).
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#3. ๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ถ๐? ๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป?
1592, by G. Harvey
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#4. ๐ฆ๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฝ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฐ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ป? and ๐ช๐ต๐?
Demosthenes (legendary Greek orator) made speeches directed against King Philip II of Macedon (the father of Alexander the Great). These speeches came to be known as ๐ฅ๐๐๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ก๐ค๐๐ค๐, or literally, โspeeches relating to Philipโ. In the ๐บ๐ผ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ฒ, a philippic has retained only the โbitter, frictional, denouncing, defamatory speechโ part of the meaning, and today the word carries no specific reference to King Philip II.
________________________________#5. When you think ๐ฝ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ถ๐ฐ you should be reminded of:
A. ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ โ because lots of kings were called ๐ฃ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ (here’s a list –ย https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philip_(name))
B. ๐ฒ๐น๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ โ because ๐ฃ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ๐ is a Dutch multinational conglomerate and one of the largest electronics companies
C. ๐ต๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐ โ because ๐ฃ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ = ๐ฃ๐ต๐ถ๐น (love) + ๐ต๐ถ๐ฝ๐ฝ (horse) = ๐ฎ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ต๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฒ๐, which is a name used to describe knights, as they used to train with their horses for long hours. See our post on ๐ฃ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฝ –ย https://logophilia.in/understand-philip-etymology
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