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Do you know the right way to give feedback to a person?

How often have you stopped yourself from giving feedback to someone thinking you might hurt their feelings?
How often did you experience a negative response from the person whom you gave feedback?
Do you struggle to get your actual intentions across to the person you’re giving feedback?
A lot has to be taken into consideration before you actually go and give feedback to somebody.
Here are 3 principles to follow in order to excel at the art of giving feedback. Yes, giving feedback to someone is an art. So, let’s begin.

First, you need to do a quick reality check by asking yourself whether this person is actually looking for feedback or this person is only around to seek attention? There are people who come to you just for attention because they like you and look up to you as a person. For them, victory is just finding your time.

Most people are very afraid of being vulnerable publicly. Most people are very unlikely to come and ask for feedback. If somebody is really looking for feedback, you can see it in their eyes where their need to improve upon themselves is fairly apparent. In case you suspect this person’s motives, it’s safe to ask them as to why do they want this feedback,  and observe the clarity with which they come back. If they fumble or seem to be giving socially desirable answers, you may choose not to deliver your feedback, thereby discouraging the development of a bad habit in them.
If this person asking for feedback is genuine then you have a responsibility. You may break it into three parts:

Your feedback is going to be an experience for the person receiving it.
If done well, it can be a life-altering one. It’s going to be a bookmark that is going to be placed in the middle of the leaves of the pages of someone’s life. Your feedback could either break this person or make this person. Hence, we need to be careful.
You must ask yourself, as a feedback provider,
“What about the experience you want this person to go back with the most?”
“Do you want this person to go home feeling completely devastated and that there was nothing good about what he did?”
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“Do you want this person to go back with a much more objective analysis of what was done according to you and what could have been done according to you?

#1 Balance out your feedback with both pros and cons, and start with the pros first.

Don’t say just bad things or just good things. Keep it real. Start your feedback process with luring this person in. Avoid starting off with completely negative stuff or you’re going to remind this person of some of the harshest, most negative, toxic people that this person has ever encountered, and you might end up shutting off this person.
Another scenario could be that this person may just go home feeling completely disheartened and daunted. They may find themselves worthless because there was nothing good about them in your feedback. Most of them seeking feedback are very likely to be in an impressionable stage in the development of their careers, in the development of their journeys, in the early stages of their paths. Therefore, a lot of care needs to be exercised in how you talk to them. So, be honest and objective while giving feedback to them.

For example: “There are four things that I liked about you. These are the six things that might require a little bit of work.”
Have respect in how you talk to them. Heraclitus said, “Nothing is permanent but change.” So, what you think to be the absolute gospel truth today, might not be true tomorrow. What you think to be a universal truth, might not be applicable to everyone and might not be held as everyone’s opinion.  So, let’s use more mights and avoid the shoulds. Give them granularity by telling them the why behind every part of your feedback.

#2 Throw in disclaimers seeking a benefit of doubt for your opinion. 

Say things like-
“I could be wrong.”
“This is just my opinion.”
“‘In my humble opinion, …”
“This could just be one episode of me thinking this way.”

At the end of your feedback, this person should not think that he/she has created a reputation in your mind about something negative that you pointed out. Avoid using absolutes. For example, how to give feedback to someone who took a long pause in a 4-minute speech-
Wrong: “Why do you always do this?”
Right: “I noticed that there was this one time when you took a long pause before you said something, it seemed to me that whilst you may have been thinking, it came across to me that you may have been underconfident at that moment.”

You don’t want that person to go home regretting her/his/their decision of asking feedback from you.
You don’t want this person to go home with very low self-esteem.
You don’t want this person to go home with the fear that this person might have created a negative reputation for herself/himself/themselves.

#3 Allow them to walk away with a choice, without feeling obliged to follow your feedback.

If they don’t follow your feedback, they should not have to fear/avoid you. Let there be a tomorrow in the relationship that you have with this person so that they can meet you with a smile and say, “Hey that thing you pointed out that day, I’m happy that you did. I’m still wondering how that can be applicable to my situation, and I will come back to you whenever I figure that out.” Let there be that much positivity in the care between the two of you. A lot of people are very dismissive in the way they give feedback.

Delivering feedback is the art that every human being should know how to possess. Especially, parents, teachers, peers, and anyone who communicates with another person. It’s very important to be humane about this process because the other person is being fairly great and extraordinary in being one of the few people who have the humility and an evolutionary instinct to ask for feedback. Such people could have chosen not to involve you in their journey. So, remember to thank them for finding you worthy of being spoken to.

From where does 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 get its name? Why does this remind me of Frank Underwood, a franchise, abusing, & kissing?

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𝟭. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁?

We’re talking about 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 – the country that gave us croissants!

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𝟮. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝘁𝘆𝗺𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗱

The word 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 comes from the Latin 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮, meaning “𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗸𝘀”.

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𝟯. 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘁? 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱?

That’s hard to say. Medieval Latin was a long time ago.

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𝟰. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 “𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲” 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗼𝗳:

A. 𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗸 𝗨𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗼𝗼𝗱 – because a “frank” means a “freeman, noble; Frank, Frenchman”. Same root. #HouseOfCards

B. 𝗳𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗵𝗶𝘀𝗲 – because “franchise” means the freedom to exercise a special right or privilege (by grant of a sovereign or government). Same root.

C. 𝗔𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 – because the British tend to use the expression “Pardon my French” after abusing someone.

D. 𝗞𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 – because, #FrenchKiss?

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What’s 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗵𝘁𝗺𝗶? Why does this remind me of birth, & eight?

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𝟭. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁?

We’re talking about 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗵𝘁𝗺𝗶 – Lord Krishna’s birthday!

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𝟮. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝘁𝘆𝗺𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗱

The word 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗵𝘁𝗺𝗶 comes from the Sanskrit parts 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗺 (meaning “birth”), & 𝗮𝘀𝗵𝘁𝗺𝗶 (“8th day”).

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𝟯. 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘁? 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱?

That’s hard to say when you’re working with Sanskrit.

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𝟰. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 “𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗵𝘁𝗺𝗶” 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝗮𝗺 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗳:

A. 𝗯𝗶𝗿𝘁𝗵 – read above ↑

B. 𝟴 – read above ↑

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What’s 𝗵𝘆𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗮? Why does this remind me of #tea, #needles, & #clothes? ️

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𝟭. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁?

We’re talking about 𝗵𝘆𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗮 – a body core temperature below 35.0 °C (95.0 °F) in humans.

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𝟮. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝘁𝘆𝗺𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗱

The word 𝗵𝘆𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗮 comes from the Greek parts 𝗵𝘆𝗽𝗼 (meaning “less than”), 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗺 (meaning “less than”), & -𝗶𝗮 (“state; condition”).

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𝟯. 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘁? 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱?

The term 𝗵𝘆𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗮 is said to have been first recorded in 1885–90. Antarctic explorers Ernest Shackleton & his team observed that body temperatures “below 94.2°, … … spells death at home”, though this probably referred to oral temperatures rather than core temperature & corresponded to mild hypothermia.

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𝟰. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 “𝗵𝘆𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗮” 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝗮𝗺 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗳:

A. 𝘁𝗲𝗮 – because “thermos”, another word from “therm”

B. 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗹𝗲𝘀 – because “hypodermic needles”. You’re so predictable :/

C. 𝗰𝗹𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀 – because “thermal vests”? Seriously, guys!

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What’s 𝗩𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲? Why does this remind me of #cows, & #smallpox?

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𝟭. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁?

We’re talking about 𝘃𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 – injecting a weakened/killed microbe to stimulate the immune system against that category of microbes, thereby preventing disease.

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𝟮. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗘𝘁𝘆𝗺𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗱

The word 𝗩𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲 comes from the Latin parts 𝗩𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻 (meaning “cow”) & -𝗮𝘁𝗲 (“to”).

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𝟯. 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝘁? 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱?

The term 𝗩𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲 is a back-formation from “vaccination”, first used in 1803, 3 years after Edward Jenner coined “𝘃𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻” (1800).

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𝟰. 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘃𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻? & 𝘄𝗵𝘆?

𝟭𝟳𝟲𝟴, English physician 𝗝𝗼𝗵𝗻 𝗙𝗲𝘄𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗿 realised that infection with 𝗰𝗼𝘄pox created smallpox-immunity.

𝟭𝟳𝟳𝟰, English farmer 𝗕𝗲𝗻𝗷𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗻 𝗝𝗲𝘀𝘁𝘆 successfully vaccinated his family against smallpox with 𝗰𝗼𝘄pox.

𝟭𝟳𝟵𝟲, British doctor 𝗘𝗱𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗝𝗲𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 demonstrated that infection with the relatively mild 𝗰𝗼𝘄pox virus conferred immunity against the deadly smallpox virus. Thus began the journey of the word vaccine, & this is why it is connected with 𝗰𝗼𝘄𝘀.

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𝟱. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 “𝘃𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲” 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗳:

A. 𝗰𝗼𝘄𝘀 – read ↑

B. 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗽𝗼𝘅 – duh!

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